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Talk to Me Like I’m Someone You Love by Nancy Dreyfus

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A groundbreaking, interactive relationship tool that literally places in the hands of couples the power to transform chronically frustrating relationship dynamics.

We’ve all been there. A conversation with a loved one escalates into conflict. Voices rise to a fever pitch and angry, accusative words fly through the air. At times like these, it seems impossible to find the magic words that will lead to healing. Enter Talk to Me Like I’m Someone You Love .

A psychotherapist with decades of experience in counseling couples, Nancy Dreyfus hit upon the revolutionary practice outlined in this book during a couples-therapy session in which a wife’s unrelenting criticism of her husband was causing him to become emotionally withdrawn. In the midst of this, Dreyfus found herself scribbling on a scrap of paper, “Talk to me like I’m someone you love” and gestured to the husband that he should hold it up. He did and within seconds the familiar power differential between the two shifted, and a gentler, more genuine connection emerged. Dreyfus was startled, then intrigued, and then motivated to create a tool that could help others.

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This elegantly packaged spiral-bound book features more than one hundred of Dreyfus’s “flash cards for real life”-written statements that express what we wish we could communicate to the person we love, but either can’t find the right words or the right tone in which to say it. The statements include:

* Taking responsibility : “I realize I’m overreacting. Can you give me a minute to get sane again?”

* Apologizing : “I know I’ve really hurt you. What can I do to help you trust me again?”

* Loving : “You are precious, and I get that I haven’t been treating you like you are.”

A one-of-a-kind, practical relationship tool, Talk to Me Like I’m Someone You Love will help couples to stop arguing and begin healing.

What is HYPNOSIS – NLP?

Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) is a technique used to provide clients with the tools to overcome certain life obstacles. NLP is in short, a way of helping people help themselves to reach a state of excellence, happiness and peace of mind.

NLP is a learning model devised by two American academics (Dr Richard Bandler and John Grinder) in the early 70s, who were fascinated by the relationship between language behaviour and excellence. They believed that by analysing the unconscious linguistic techniques used by successful people, they could produce ‘a recipe for excellence’ in which other people could consciously learn to apply said ‘successful techniques’.

What is NLP?

NLP stands for neuro-linguistic programming.

Neuro – All of our experience is gained from the neurological processes that govern our five senses: taste, touch, smell, sight and sound.

Linguistic – We make sense of these experiences through a set of filters, including language. The language we use can also affect the way we experience things.

Programming – This is a way of controlling the outcome of something. A person can use NLP to ‘predetermine excellence’ by adjusting the language we use.

To break it down, the science aspect is the process of extracting and learning the techniques. The art aspect is the act of applying the techniques to our own lives.

There are four ways NLP techniques are most commonly used:

to teach effective communication
to ensure continual personal development
to enhance learning
to encourage a greater enjoyment in life
NLP is used to teach us how changing our perception of the world can lead us to adjust and adapt our behaviours to live the life we want.

NLP and hypnotherapy

Hypnotherapists aim to induce a relaxed and receptive state (trance) in their clients in order to access the subconscious. Many of the obstacles that prohibit or limit a person’s experiences are deeply embedded in the subconscious, so by accessing the thought processes that usually remain hidden, hypnotherapists can work with clients to change the restrictive thought pattern and make room for positive development.

An NLP practitioner will look at your attitude, your language and how you use it, your understanding of relationships and your ability to build rapport, as well as the physical and emotional states that are best for accomplishing a task. Effective communication and perception of others and ourselves, will also be key focuses. All of these will be analysed and examined by the professional, so that a strategy for improving understanding, motivation, learning and memory can be formed.

Many hypnotherapists train in NLP to help improve their ability to communicate more effectively with their clients, as well as to help their clients communicate more effectively with themselves.

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About Author

Nancy Dreyfus

I’m a psychotherapist, former journalist and teacher and student of metaphysics who started out a self-conscious bookworm in a tense, glamour-oriented household in Metuchen, New Jersey. I used to wonder as a teenager whether there was “some book out there that told you what to say to people.” I had little awareness that “relating” required a Self.

As a graduate of The Columbia School of Journalism and prize-winning reporter, I managed this sense of invisibility by crusading for the oppressed. When I was 25, I actually was offered a job expanding this niche at The New York Times…about the same time The Universe offered a competing option: An assignment to write an exposè of a spiritual group gave me an unimagined experience of simply feeling whole. When an admired editor told me I had written something incredibly mediocre, and astonishingly, I felt no familiar diminishment, I promptly left journalism and decided to spend the rest of my life exploring ways to access and sustain the identity that made that possible.

A psychotherapist now for over 25 years, I see myself as a kind of transpersonal scout, helping people let go of external structures that no longer fit and orienting them to what it means to live a life based on their own insides. A phrase I like in this regard is Trust in Being. I’d say that the whole atomic sub-structure of Talk To Me Like I’m Someone You Love is that trusting in one’s own Being will automatically optimize relationality.